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Posted in home budgets | No Comments »Mary and Luke have been married for three years and have a two year old boy named Alex. Mary is a stay at home mom but is currently taking two classes in the University. She is eight months pregnant and usually comes back home right after classes around two in the afternoon. Luke is a full time student and has a different schedule every day. He manages to help Mary by taking care of the baby while she is at school and then after she is done he goes back to class and stays to study and do homework in campus because it is hard to concentrate at home with the baby. Luke is home around five every day except Wednesdays when he comes at eight. With his school schedule and helping out at home he doesn't have time to work.
Because they don't work they are living off student loans. The student loans pay all the bills and last the whole semester until the next one comes. The problem they have is that they spend more of what they need. Because the money comes in a big amount at the beginning of the semester and they don't make a budget, once it comes they spend extra money in little things like eating out, and buying things they don't really need. Mary doesn't like to cook now that she is pregnant and she gets tired a lot and that is what makes this bad habit of eating out worse. Also since there is a new baby coming and is a baby girl she is trying to decorate the nursery so that both babies can share the room but she is going a little overboard. The little things add up to big amounts of money and they don't realize that the loan is going to have to be paid after they graduate and the more they use now the more they get in debt.
The problem in this family is a bad spending routine. To explain better why I think is a routine and not a ritual I will quote Fiese in her definition of routines: “Routines involve momentary time commitment and are more often associated with episodic rather than semantic memory. Once the act is completed there is little after thought, and there is an uninterrupted flow to daily life. Routines are repeated over time, with little alteration, and can be directly observed by outsiders”
These bad spending episodes are repeated, but have absolutely no significance for the actual family memories or ties. The only problem is the more they keep this routine the more they will get in debt. In fact, I think this family has so many spending problems because they lack a few family life cycle rituals like family meal time, or maybe a family meal preparation night or a budget meeting night.
This problem can be solved by learning a little about finances and actually paying attention to it by making a budget. Since the spending is caused because Mary gets too tired to cook after taking care of the baby and going to classes maybe they can have a more organized way to prepare meals like a weekly menu and they can both work in the chopping and food preparation so that when Mary has to cook she has less work to do. Since Luke is at school until late some times it would help if this food preparation can be done weekends after grocery shopping. Also they can include only easy and quick recipes in the weekly menu and for days when she is really tired maybe they can even try frozen pizzas or other kind of food that already comes prepared from the grocery store but are a lot cheaper than eating out.
To solve the spending decorating and making the house ready for the new baby, Mary can learn tips about decorating that can make a big change without having to spend money and be creative using what she has around the house.
In order to find actual solutions to the problem I am going to use different chapters from the book “Creating a Home as a Sacred Center”, Chapter 10 which teaches about financial stewardship and shows how to make a budget and live within our means and also Chapter 14 which will help to solve the problem of eating out by showing how to make family meals, menu planning and money and time management. Finally I will also use Chapter 11 which talks about creating a home to solve the bad expending in room decorations and learn to leave within our means being creative and working with what we have.
To solve their financial stewardship problem, Chapter 10 describes useful steps to follow to have a better financial stewardship. First of all they are not spending monthly income but they are making bad use of money that already is debt. I like the quote “The poor stay poor by pretending to be rich and the rich stay rich by pretending to be poor” Klein and Hill (2005)
Mary and Luke are students that are going to be paying their loans after they graduate. If they keep their spending habits they will spend many years after they graduate just paying off the student loans that kept them living well for four years, but will keep them without a home for ten to come.
They can solve their bad spending just by following the “Pragmatics of Family Financial Stewardship” explained in chapter 10. For example, by developing a Record- Keeping System they can learn how little things add up and they can be aware of how much they spend on needs and how much they spend in their wants. Developing a monthly budget will give them a specific amount by which they have to keep their expenses monthly without going over it, and also help them have a monthly average of their expenses and maybe they can only ask the amount they need to live during the semester instead of the full loan. This way they can also control and monitor their use of debt.
If they are in control of their money they can start planning for the future like home ownership. Reducing debt now in their student loans can help them be well economically in the future.
In order to reduce their spending by eating out, Chapter 14 explains how menu planning can help save money. Menu planning helps to make a specific grocery list which can help to keep the budget; also it helps to plan ahead and be able to look for sales and coupons.
Planning a menu should consider life style and the schedule of the whole family. It also requires attention to nutrition, special diets, personal preferences, and other resources like time and money. Another thing to consider is the age of the members of the family, so since Mary has a toddler and it is pregnant she should consider having more dark green and carrots in her menu, and other items that will help the better development of the baby and the growth of the toddler. In addition, since toddlers are picky eaters she should have that in consideration by making her menu creative so that meal times are not stressing because the toddler doesn't want to eat dinner. Variety helps in this case.
Even though it is going to be a harder approach because the family is not use to do it, menu planning and having a grocery list will help Mary and Luke save money by just buying what they need and not buying by impulse again. Also if they have an organized menu, they can set up a time to for food preparation like chopping or cleaning food so that cooking can be an easy task for Mary since she is pregnant. Food planning, preparation, and clean-up are great ways for families to spend time together. The best part is that there are appropriate jobs for everyone, including their toddler. (Klein and Hill, 2005)
To help Mary reduce her decorating expenses, Chapter 11 explains well about how to live modestly. It explains how living modestly means carefully evaluation of new products in the marketplace. It recommends waiting to make a purchase. The process of waiting comes with very useful perks like saving money to pay cash for the purchase instead of getting in debt, doing the right research of the product to find where is the best place to get it, also many products go on sale after time, so waiting can bring savings. Also the best result of waiting is thinking as a family if the purchase is necessary and prevents buying things by impulse which is Mary's main problem.
It also explain how many newlyweds want to have what their parents have but forget that obtaining that beautiful home and furniture takes time. Meanwhile it is possible to have a beautiful decorated home without going overboard on budget. She can refurbish items that she already has, and apply design principles like proportion, scale, balance, emphasis, and harmony to place them around her house so that it can feel like a fine design. For the nursery she can use neutral colors that will go well with both children instead of buying completely new things for the new baby girl.
By doing all this activities they may find themselves overwhelmed by all the new tasks to do but only until they get use to it. This process will take a lot of adjusting and sacrifice, but the final product will be less debt for their future and by having a budget they can actually plan ahead and probably purchase a safe home for their children. Also, solving this bad routine has contributed to create new family rituals like family meal time. By doing a weekly menu they are making family mealtimes more possible allowing Mary and the baby to have a better nutrition than what they had eating in fast food places. They will also have the Food preparation Night ritual, and the budget meeting. These rituals will become memorable and will be planned ahead. This opportunity will allow family development and good outcomes like family bonding and enhanced communication. Also by waiting to buy extra decorations and furniture Mary and Luke can save to buy good quality items that will last and help their own home to become the promised safe haven. So overall the outcomes are worth the sacrifice.
Referring to the Provident Home Model, we learned that the provident home is a sacred space where the family attempts to dwell in unity, and where each member is provided for and nurtured such that their needs are met and their wants are considered. It is where the sacred means of everyday family activities are discovered. (Klein and Hill, 2008)
The Provident Home
Context of the Home
Processes of the Home
Sacred Purposes of Life
In this case, the contexts of the home will be familial and social. Since the family is working to become better financial stewards, this will affect their family strengths and togetherness as they get involved in the learning processes of financial management and as they struggle to get adapted, but learn as a team to use the budget planning, and weekly menu planning and other tools to their benefit. Also they will affect their future wellness by controlling their debt.
The social context affected will be economic. The fact that they will use less student's loans, and learn to use money wisely will put them in a better financial situation making them less likely to be in a bankruptcy or in a collections problem, affecting the total economy in a good way.
All of the Processes of the provident home will be used to affect the context of the home. There will be “interfacing” while the parents gather the knowledge and ideas to make this new goal happen. They will be providing by educating themselves financially to bring ideas into their home to fulfill life's purposes in a better way.
There will be “provisioning” since they will have prudent management of their finances and resources. They will manage well so that they can be well not only in the mean time but also in the future. With good finances comes being able to provide good shelter, feeding, clothing, health, all the needs will be cover and they can save enough to pay cash for their “wants”.
There will be “leading” since Mary and Luke will implement resources and ideas that their kids will follow. They will plan and organize their time to make a budget, make a menu, prepare the food, and have new family rituals. They will make wiser use of their time and money.
There will be “Renewing” since they will be eating healthier by preparing home cooked meals instead of fast food. By eating healthy they will feel healthier restoring their physical health.
There will be “Nurturing” since they will get these new tools and pass them to their kids making their lives easier too. They will learn to have the ability to change and adapt to their new circumstances. For example Mary will learn that she is still in college and she has to adjust to living within their means, making the best of what she has while decorating.
And there will be “Sanctifying” because they will learn to appreciate and count every blessing that Heavenly father gives them. Since they will realize how hard it is to keep a good home safe, they will not take things for granted and they will appreciate the gifts received by the Lord.
The purposes of the provident home seeing will be in their change of character and acquisition of virtues. They will learn discipline, self control, sacrifice, responsibility and even hard work. They will also gain emotional health since less debt means fewer worries.
Working together as a family to reach a purpose will strengthen their marriage relationship and they will even have stronger extended family relationships since the parents won't have to save them when bad financial times come.
Overall there will be not only economical but also spiritual lessons learned and pass on for generation and all just because a couple of young parents decided to make a difference and change their bad spending routines.
References
1. Barbara H. Fiese. (2006). “Family Routines and Rituals”. (Chapter 1)
2. Shirley R. Klein and E. Jeffrey Hill (2005). “Creating Home as a Sacred Center”. Principles of everyday living. (Chapter 10, 11, 14)
